So, if you feel in your relationship a note would be a good option, you are welcome to write something along these lines as follows. Because, apparently, selfishness is a horrible thing unless we are talking about sex. My wife and I have been married 37 yrs and over the last 15 to 20 yrs have had next to no intimate sexual relations, no kissing or very little , no intimate touching not even a bj or a handjob. Is your partner tidy? My suggestion for the approach is as follows below. Is the relationship toxic in any way? Hi Steven, as previously mentioned it's obviously a delicate, complex subject.
Is a husband selfish for having sex with his wife when she is not the mood?
I have tried to show my wife that I love her from doing house work and cooking dinner and flowers at work. An exhausted wife does not have the time, energy or inclination to have relations with her husband based on pity. Heading this come from a man is quite surprising. Sure you may still live together, but the connection between the two of you will be gone, and you both will expose yourselves to dangerous and sinful temptations by doing so.
But sex is supposed to be about feelings not duty right?
This is very true with my wife. It also indicated to me, that he wanted to spend time with me when I came home, because he knew I would have to do that before I could relax with him. And many have commented that it is marital rape which I disagree. Are there unresolved offenses within the marriage that might need some outside help to resolve.
Lol I have a husband. And I am glad to hear that you have visited a counselor. I didn't fully understand this until I heard the following comparison: I told her that I simply cannot live the rest of my life like this. This is so stereotypical! So, I ask of you in respect of what you may have at one point felt for me, in respect for the man you believe yourself to be, in respect for the child that we created from our union, I ask you to please meet with me in our bedroom at 9pm this Sunday evening and verbally share with me what you have been not sharing with me so we can start the process of confronting the reality of our situation, and perhaps someday heal, and figure out our next steps.